COUPLES THERAPY &
MARRIAGE COUNSELING
Heal. Connect. Thrive.
ONLINE THERAPY FOR COUPLES/POLYCULES IN THE SAN FRANCISCO BAY AREA AND CALIFORNIA
Ever feel like your relationship's flame has flickered out?
You are at work and you find yourself yet again staring at the wall replaying the horrible argument you had earlier with your partner. The painful words still echo in your mind. You feel energy-drained, sad, and angry…all at the same time. Productivity becomes a distant dream as your thoughts spiral into a loop of misery.
Caught in a limbo, with one foot in and one foot out, you're neither fully committed nor ready to let go of your partner. The uncertainty is unsettling and you start questioning everything about your relationship…and yourself. It’s paralyzing.
Life hasn't unfolded as you envisioned.
LET’S FACE IT
The once-vibrant connection you had has faded into misunderstandings, stonewalling, and tension. You look back at the good times you had and wonder: where did things go off course? You used to be this dynamic force, facing everything together. Now, it feels like you're each on our own islands. Little things have become big issues, you don’t seem to see eye to eye and there's a constant tension lingering in the air.
You feel you are constantly walking on eggshells. It’s exhausting. You're just waiting for the next misstep, the next argument that adds another crack to the fragile relationship. Judgment and criticism feel like constant companions, making you question not just the relationship but also your own worth.
Beyond the immediate argument, challenges like demanding careers, multicultural dynamics, neurodivergence, polyamorous complexities, and the disruptiveness of parenthood profoundly shape the nuanced landscape of your relationship.
The tension in your relationship isn't confined to your personal life; it seeps into every corner, affecting work, friendships, and your overall sense of happiness.
It's like a pervasive shadow, casting doubt on every aspect of your existence.
Being in a relationship is like being given a sailboat and told to sail it across the ocean without knowing the first thing about navigation.
No formal training, no guidebook – just the expectation that you should instinctively know how to steer through stormy seas. Sure, maybe you picked up a few tricks from watching others, but is that enough to weather the storms and reach the shores of lasting happiness? Probably not.
If you're here, you've likely reached the same conclusion. Time has come to cultivate some new skills to avoid drifting aimlessly.
Well, you are in the right place.
I am a relationship therapist - not a therapy generalist - and I am committed to seeing you thrive in relationships.
how i can help
A Roadmap to a Deeper Connection
If you are looking at this page, chances are that amongst the tension, uncertainty, frustration, inside you there is a glimmer of hope that things could be better.
Imagine a day-to-day life filled with open and effective communication, where conflicts are resolved with empathy and respect. They are no longer stumbling blocks, but opportunities for growth.
No more walking on eggshells. Judgment, criticism, and stonewalling are replaced with understanding and compassion.
You feel confident and know where you stand within the system. Your relationship is a source of strength, providing a stable foundation, which creates positive ripples in every aspect of your life. This transformation extends beyond your relationship—it seeps into your work, friendships, and overall sense of happiness.
Stand at the crossroads and envision a future where you not only survive but thrive together.
Let's embark on this journey to transform your relationship into a source of strength, connection, and fulfillment — because you deserve the love and joy that thriving relationships can bring.
My Approach
My solution-focused approach is all about breaking free from the patterns that keep you stuck. From gaining clarity on the unconscious patterns of your arguments, to learning how to repair fractures and new effective communication skills, together, we'll build a toolbox that will serve you for life.
Whether you're navigating the uncertainties of your relationship, sustaining simultaneous relationships, or contemplating conscious uncoupling, this is a sanctuary that was crafted for you.
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Therapy with me is an active journey. We're not just talking; Together, we'll dive into the heart of your relationship, evaluate strengths, and untangle knots and underlying patterns.
I seamlessly weave together evidence-based methodologies and experiential techniques such as: Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems for couples (IFS), Gottman Marital Counseling, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) & Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) techniques.
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I bring real-time tools to the table – from conflict resolution and reparations techniques to immersive role-play and personalized practices. I might even add some homework to deepen your practice between sessions.
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In our weekly 50-minute sessions, I take a dynamic approach. Whether it's you and your partner or a larger polycule, I tailor our meetings to your unique needs and pressing issues.
The weekly cadence is not just a routine; it's a deliberate strategy to ensure the integration of new breakthroughs, tools, and habits into your life. This consistent rhythm allows for lasting change to settle, fostering a transformation that goes beyond the confines of our sessions. Need to dive deep quickly in a shorter amount of time? Learn more about intensives and couple retreats.
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Couples therapy and marriage counseling with me bends to your life. Online sessions? Check. Separate or together, your choice. Flexible timings? First come, first served.
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The weekly cadence is not just a routine; it's a deliberate strategy to ensure the integration of new breakthroughs, tools, and habits into your life. This consistent rhythm allows for lasting change to settle, fostering a transformation that goes beyond the confines of our sessions. For deep dives into specific areas, explore my intensives.
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I celebrate diversity in all its forms and provide affirming therapy for Multicultural, Ethical Non-Monogamous (ENM), Polyamorous, LGBTQIA2+, Kink, and Neurodivergent (e.g., ADHD) couples and individuals. I am an anti-oppressive therapist. My systemic perspective incorporates intersectional, liberatory, and decolonial frameworks. I understand that our stories are not shaped in isolation; they are woven into the fabric of the social, cultural, and economic context you navigate daily.
Areas of Expertise
Affirming and anti-oppressive therapy for Multicultural, Ethical Non-Monogamous (ENM), Polyamorous, LGBTQIA2+, Kink/BDSM, and Neurodivergent (e.g., ADHD) couples and polycules, specializing in:
PROFESSIONAL AND HIGH-ACHIEVING COUPLES
Navigate the unique challenges
faced by Dual-Career partners with demanding professional or managerial jobs and increasing responsibilities.
MULTI-CULTURAL &
MULTI-RACIAL COUPLES
Embrace, understand, and
celebrate diversity within your relationship, fostering understanding and connection across differences.
OPEN/POLY RELATIONSHIPS
Judgment-free sanctuary for the exploration of boundaries, consent, feelings of jealousy, and communication within less-traditional relationship dynamics.
CO-PARENTING
COUNSELING
Tailored support for new, or separating/divorced parents seeking
to reduce conflict and implement
new parenting strategies.
NEURODIVERGENT COUPLES
(ADHD)
Specialized support for couples in which one or both partners are navigating the complexities that ADHD can bring to a relationship.
CONSCIOUS
UNCOUPLING
A tailored approach to end your relationship with grace and respect, ensuring the best possible outcome for everyone affected in the system.
I am committed to guiding you
toward a relationship that not only withstands the tests of time,
but flourishes in the face of challenges.
This is your journey of self-discovery, understanding,
and connection—a narrative of love that stands resilient
against the complexities of modern relationships.
Are you ready to invest in the well-being of your relationship?
Take the first step today.
Reach out, and let's start your transformative journey.
Your love story is waiting to be rewritten.
Couples Therapy can help you to:
Enhance Communication & Break Cycles
Transform argument cycles into positive, loving connection
Resolve Conflicts Respectfully
Transform conflicts into opportunities for growth
Overcome hurt, cultivate trust, and restore commitment.
Repair and Build Trust
Prioritize Intimacy
Reignite passion for a more fulfilling connection.
Collaborate as a Team
Work together as part of an interconnected system & support each other's growth.
Evaluate Relationship Direction
Gain clarity on the future of your relationship.
faqs
Common Questions About Couples Therapy
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THE THERAPY PROCESS, SIMPLIFIED:
1. Free Initial Consultation:
A complimentary 15-minute phone call to assess whether we're the right fit. Click here to schedule a free consultation now.2. First Session: Guided Couple Intake:
A comprehensive 75-minute guided couple intake session, also known as the “couples therapy assessment.” This session allows me to gather valuable insights into your relationship history and the reasons bringing you to therapy.3. Individual Intakes:
Individual 60-minute intake sessions are conducted for each member of the couple or polycule. These sessions delve into personal histories and the unique reasons for seeking therapy.4. Weekly Couples Therapy Sessions:
Weekly sessions are scheduled for 50 minutes each. This regular cadence is not just a routine; it's designed to ensure the integration of new breakthroughs, tools, and habits into your life. The consistent rhythm facilitates lasting change that extends beyond the confines of our sessions.Couples therapy with me is solution focused and based on re-establishing an emotional connection with your partner/s, while building deeper levels of interaction, communication, and intimacy. As there is a no one-size-fits-all approach, I use an eclectic mix of modalities such as Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Gottman Marital Counseling, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) techniques.
ADDITIONAL OPTIONS:
Emergencies
Depending on availability, I offer last minute booking 50 to 75-minute sessions with flexible timing to address pressing issues promptly.Couples Retreats and Intensives
For those seeking an in-depth exploration of specific issues, I provide Therapy Intensives and Retreats. -
Absolutely! I offer online couples therapy retreats and intensives for couples and polycules who are seeking greater depth of therapeutic breakthrough over a shorter amount of time.
These sessions offer a dynamic alternative to traditional weekly therapy and come in formats of 1 Day (8-hour Program), 2 Days (11-hour Program), or 3 Days (14-hour Program)
My signature retreats and intensives follow a bootcamp-style approach, combining intensive relationship therapy with teachings from respected therapeutic approaches such as Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT), Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFCT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), Gottman marital counseling, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
During the intensives, couples gain more clarity on where they are at and where they want to go, learn a communication formula to enhance productivity and reduce stress in interactions, increase intimacy, foster repairs, and increase trust.
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I am a relationship therapist based in San Francisco, CA and a Board-Certified Telemental Health Provider, offering online couples therapy and marriage counseling to all residents of California. If you or your partner are outside California, consider finding a therapist licensed in your state.
Online sessions offer all partners of the couple/polycule the convenience of joining the session separately or together.
To ensure privacy, I use a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform that requires no downloading and can be accessed from any device.
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Yes! I offer neurodivergent-inclusive couples therapy with a specific focus on ADHD for couples where one or both partners have ADHD. The approach is designed to foster understanding on the ADHD effects on marriage/partnership, and aims to strengthen relationships by embracing the unique qualities associated with ADHD. The goal is to improve communication, understanding, and connection with your partner, fostering a more supportive and harmonious relationship.
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Absolutely. As a relationship therapist, I am committed to providing a safe and inclusive space for partners with diverse relationship structures. I am experienced in working with Ethical Non-Monogamous (ENM), Polyamorous, LGBTQIA2+, Kink couples and polycules. My practice embraces and celebrates the unique dynamics and challenges that come with these relationships. Whether you are considering opening up your relationship, exploring polyamory, or navigating the complexities of non-traditional relationship structures, I am here to support you in your journey.
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Couples therapy, marriage counseling, and relationship therapy are often used interchangeably, but there are nuanced differences. Couples therapy may imply a longer-term approach and work on relationship dynamics, while Marriage Counseling focuses on areas specific to marriage (e.g., navigating marital conflicts, premarital counseling).
Despite being less common, I prefer the term "relationship therapy" to describe my work. It is a more inclusive and expansive term that goes beyond the duality of couples and the institution of marriage, embracing diverse relationship types and providing a comprehensive focus on relational dynamics.
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